I am professionally engaged. I got engaged close to a year ago and I am not-so-patiently awaiting my nuptials on July 27th. I think we did some things right, and some things I might have changed. So here is my advice for anyone who is recently engaged...
* Pick the right time to get married. Do not have a long engagement OR a short engagement. 6 months to a year is probably about right. Too short and you don't have time to really think about what is about to happen and the stress from planning can almost drive you insane. Too long and you will second guess each other's commitment and second guess every wedding decision you make.
* Spend time together, but do not spend every waking moment together. This is a time of reflection and a time to prepare for spending your life together. If you are in each other's space 24/7 you will not have time for yourself which is not fair to you or to him/her.
* Pick you battles. There will be so many tiny things that will seem huge at the time. DO NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. If you do, you both will be miserable. If you question every decision your partner makes, you have a much greater chance of making him/her push away and even question the future. Some things are just not that important.
* GO TO COUNSELING!
* Talk to people who have never been divorced. Do not take advice seriously from unmarried friends, or oft divorced men or women.
* Trust God.