Who better to address this then R.C. Sproul and Al Mohler. Some see this as judgement. But isn't the point of winning the lost, to help them grow in Christ and then influence their friends and family for Christ as well? I think so. So it isn't judgement to me. If you simply "scratch an itch" you really aren't showing love so much as you are showing convenience. The Gospel isn't convenient. It will cost you everything.