Friday, June 29, 2007

The Madness Of Divorce

A rerun from 9/13/05...

Divorce is on the rise in this great country, rising to levels never before seen. And why? Well to tell you the truth for the most part, with lots of exceptions, I blame men. I blame that hedonistic mindset that dwells in us all. It's our sin nature to look out for #1. But men in this country have let movies, media, and peers without our best interest in mind tell us that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They say that being a man isn't complete until you have barbie hanging on your left arm and a glass of beer in the other. There is nothing manly about abandoning a promise. So many of us are living as if there is nothing bigger than us. Ourselves are our only God. And what a lousy God at that.
Men have got to get a grip on reality. If a man leaves his wife in search for a more trophy like wife he just might be happy.......for the equivalent of about 5 minutes. Than guess what, that hole that he was trying to fill will be gaping once again. So goodbye trophy wife #2. And the sick cycle carousel will continue on and on. And that's because the void is being filled with items that cannot satisfy eternally.
This is why God patterned marriage the way he did. Because when you have your eyes first set to him then the satisfaction in your wife and family will be enhanced. The void is filled and filled eternally. It's something that American men are so ignorant to that having 4 or 5 failed marriages seems minor to them. It's an American disease that is frustrating and scary. Love God, Love your wife, and be happy. It's really not a complicated thing to understand. It's not always easy to love God and your wife, but nothing that is worthwhile in this world is ever easy. Never forget that.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

“Perfection” is what people strive for… The problem is most men and women have the wrong definition of “perfection” in mind when they search and strive for it.

The fact that you are able to say “trophy wife” and assume (with 98% assurance) that everyone will know exactly what you are talking about, is part of the problem. If we didn’t have such a clear picture of that “trophy wife”, how could we want it? Hard to be envious of something that doesn’t exist in even our minds.

Envy really is one of those deadly sins that lives mainly in our minds. Envious of the marathon runner? (Are you really envious of his whole world?) Are you envious of the hours he spends training every day? Are you envious of the meal replacement shakes he drinks to maintain strength and stamina? Are you envious of the torn ligaments his knees have? [ The great thing about envy is you get to pick the pieces that you are envious of. It’s hard to figure out why we still don’t have what we want when we get JUST what we are envious of. Right? Takes more than just the “pretty” pieces to complete the puzzle.]

Women are just as much to blame in this divorce epidemic. We want our husbands to have the six figure incomes. We want our husbands to come home each night and play baseball with little Billy and attend all of little Sally’s ballerina recitals. We want our houses to be furnished with the fanciest furniture. We want our backyards full of swing sets and swimming pools. We want a nice trimmed, up kept yard (but we don’t want you to track grass clipping and mud on the nice white carpet). We want a man who can fix our cars, our refrigerators, and our curling irons. We want SUV’s to tote the kids to soccer practice in. We want, we want, we want. Give me, give me, give me?

Women want it all too…. Or at the very least, they want something “perfect”. The want a “perfect” that they can “justify” the faults against. You don’t see a woman willing to settle for the least of everything. Maybe she’ll marry the doctor who has a receding hairline? Or maybe she’ll marry the grocery sacker because he has the “good looks” of a magazine model? The computer technician suddenly looks a bit more appealing when his income falls out of his pocket.

Yes, you’re right… the grass might look greener on the other side… but both lawns have to be trimmed, sprayed with weed killer and watered just the same. Women are just as guilty of “wanting what they don’t have.”

It’s HUMAN nature.